Hey Evan, I love this post! Ya, people seem to do that a lot, in which they avoid helping those that are in need in front of them. I think a good point you made is that if that man were a child, people would’ve helped. I also think if that man were an animal, like a rescue dog, people would’ve helped as well. I think it has something to do with the innocence that goes away as we age as humans and lots of people probably being busy and thinking the next person will help. It’s definitely fascinating. I try to give money to people I see in need as much as possible. Hopefully seeing one person help can be enough to make a change. Thank you so much for posting this!
The idea of us seeing less innocence in other beings as we age feels spot on.
Amazing perspective.
Very true as well the belief of - someone else will come along and help this person.
Tragic though...
I imagine there must be a ripple effect of seeing others giving.
I feel like I experienced this first hand two weeks ago in San Jose.
I drove up to a Best Buy to buy a tripod, and on my way in saw a man begging on the corner of the outbound traffic. He was not in a spot where I could stop and give to him from my vehicle at that moment. On my way out of Best Buy, I was driving through that same outbound lane and he was still on the corner. I was far back in the queue and giving to him was something I wanted to do, but I felt this false wall of I am too far away. Then I see the first car in the line wave him down. Then the third. Now he is closer to me. I was him down and offer him a bag of food.
Wow, that’s so interesting Evan. Sad how things are now, but glad to know there are still people out there to help. And hopefully, that positivity can start a chain reaction more often. :)
Just last week I called the police because I noticed a woman crying and after asking what was wrong she had just been in a domestic violence incident and wasn't safe. About a year ago I did the same thing for a woman who was assaulted right before my eyes. Both those times there were other people who unfortunately decided not to offer help.
Absolutely. In other's defence, I work for Corrections and have worked there for 15 years - so I'm well trained - first of all in spotting situations and second of all in dealing with those type of situations. So I'm probably a little more confident than most people to actually intervene.
Hey Evan, I love this post! Ya, people seem to do that a lot, in which they avoid helping those that are in need in front of them. I think a good point you made is that if that man were a child, people would’ve helped. I also think if that man were an animal, like a rescue dog, people would’ve helped as well. I think it has something to do with the innocence that goes away as we age as humans and lots of people probably being busy and thinking the next person will help. It’s definitely fascinating. I try to give money to people I see in need as much as possible. Hopefully seeing one person help can be enough to make a change. Thank you so much for posting this!
Happy to hear the post resonated with you :)
The idea of us seeing less innocence in other beings as we age feels spot on.
Amazing perspective.
Very true as well the belief of - someone else will come along and help this person.
Tragic though...
I imagine there must be a ripple effect of seeing others giving.
I feel like I experienced this first hand two weeks ago in San Jose.
I drove up to a Best Buy to buy a tripod, and on my way in saw a man begging on the corner of the outbound traffic. He was not in a spot where I could stop and give to him from my vehicle at that moment. On my way out of Best Buy, I was driving through that same outbound lane and he was still on the corner. I was far back in the queue and giving to him was something I wanted to do, but I felt this false wall of I am too far away. Then I see the first car in the line wave him down. Then the third. Now he is closer to me. I was him down and offer him a bag of food.
So funny to watch the little shifts in my mind.
Wow, that’s so interesting Evan. Sad how things are now, but glad to know there are still people out there to help. And hopefully, that positivity can start a chain reaction more often. :)
The chain reaction of positivity is the dream.
Just last week I called the police because I noticed a woman crying and after asking what was wrong she had just been in a domestic violence incident and wasn't safe. About a year ago I did the same thing for a woman who was assaulted right before my eyes. Both those times there were other people who unfortunately decided not to offer help.
Thank you for supporting your community.
Domestic violence is terrible. Something I wish we never would have to face.
Unbelievable that people perform this violence, even in front of others.
Still more painful in another way how the bystander effect (or ____) has everyone else not taking any action.
We need action. Otherwise, how can we as a human family grow?
Absolutely. In other's defence, I work for Corrections and have worked there for 15 years - so I'm well trained - first of all in spotting situations and second of all in dealing with those type of situations. So I'm probably a little more confident than most people to actually intervene.
The confidence certainly makes a difference.
I guess most people live in fear, and are averse to stepping into something that is not there business.
Feels like we should be conditioned in the opposite direction though - to offer peace brokering rather than freezing on the sidelines.
Absolutely, I know I would want help if I were ever in the same situation!